Single at Valentine's

It’s the month of love and the marketing frenzy is at its peak. Being single on Valentine’s Day can be daunting especially if you’re surrounded by couples.

Some single women spend Valentine’s Day mentally moaning all the relationships that didn’t work out. Others spend time bashing the day (and relationships). You get temporary relief and then crash the next day when reality sets in…and you’re still single.

What if you’re not angry or bitter, but you still want to enjoy the day without all the hype? Check out this list for some things you can do to enjoy Valentine’s Day as a single woman.

5 things to do if you’re single on Valentine’s Day

1. Give yourself a treat

Spend some money on yourself. Here are some ideas:

  • Buy yourself a trinket.
  • Indulge in a box of imported chocolates.
  • Buy the sexy lingerie you’ve been dying for.
  • Go to the spa.
  • Book a massage.
  • Have a fancy make-over.

In other words, do something just for yourself.

2. Host a party for singles

Venturing out alone or in a group of other single women may not be the best thing. With the love theme in all places, you will stick out and end up feeling worse.

So why not throw a party for your single friends? This can be as simple as a stay-at-home dinner, or an elaborate party with everyone dressing up.

Pump up the music, bring the drinks, shake your bodies and dance the night away.

3. Have a girls night in

Invite your girlfriends for a movie night and watch your favourite chick flick or comedy. If you want, you can all take the next day off and turn the movie night into a slumber party.

Make popcorn. Bring out the chocolate, wine, and other goodies that you all love. Have fun and laugh all night as you drool over the hotties in the movies.

You can also do this on your own if your friends are unavailable.

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4. Bond with children

Are you a single mum? You can have a ball with your children. Treat them out and feed them their favourite junk food. Then watch a movie or do something physical like bowling.

If you don’t have children, offer to babysit to give your relatives or friends a relaxed couple’s night. Do this right and both the children and their parents will love you.

5. Get perspective

There’s no other day in the year that drives home the fact that you’re single. This can lead to feeling lonely. While it’s OK to feel lonely, it’s not OK to wallow in your loneliness.

Instead of getting stuck in loneliness, use this time to get perspective about your life.

  • Celebrate the fact that you’re single: Create a list of things you like about being single. Let this boost your morale when people try to rub in the fact that you’re single.
  • Create a list of things you love about yourself: Self-love builds your self-esteem. If you want to have a great relationship in the future, you must first love yourself. Include your achievements and strengths in the list.
  • Identify what you want in a relationship: This is a great time to identify the kind of man you’d want to be with. Create a list of the qualities, values and characteristics you want in a man. Also, identify your personal qualities and characteristics that are potential relationship-breakers. Use this evaluation to guide your future relationships and to plan for your own personal development.
  • Get help from experts: It’s important to heal from past wounds before you can be in a healthy relationship. Seek help from a therapist if you’ve been abused in the past. You can also sign up to work with a relationship coach this year – most give special discounts for Valentine’s Day. Finally, you can work with a life coach if you want to create all-rounded balance in your life.

Useful resources

1. Relationship Coaching Institute: Check out the store for resources on Conscious Dating. You can get it as an eBook, paperback or audio program.

Their free conscious dating website also has useful resources for singles, including:

  • Relationship Readiness Quiz.
  • Dating Red Flags Checklist.
  • A free excerpt of the Conscious Dating book (in PDF format).
  • Free conscious dating MP3.
  • Live teleseminars.
  • A knowledge bank with advice from relationship coaches.
  • Access to certified Relationship Coaches who specialize on working with single people.

2. Brain Tracy’s 21 Great Ways to Meet and Marry The Man of Your Dreams: This is an audio program that you can download and listen to many times. Tracy gives tips that will help you prepare for and create a great relationship. Best of all, his advice is very practical and not woo woo stuff.

Over to you now…

You can be happy even if you’re single on Valentine’s Day. Resist pressure from the media, marketing, friends and family, and celebrate the day of love your way.

Additionally, don’t waste the day stalking your exes on social media or hiding from the fact that you’re single. Instead, stand out this year and enjoy the day alone or with people who matter to you.

Everyone deserves to be happy, whether you’re in a relationship or not. Don’t let the hype surrounding Valentine’s Day put you down. Being single on Valentine’s Day is fun if you decide to make it so.

Are you single this Valentine’s? What other fun activities do you have to add to the list above? Let me know in the Comments.

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    2 replies to "5 Things to Do if You’re Single on Valentine’s Day"

    • Josephine

      This is powerful, helps one make concious decisions for the day

      • Caroline Gikonyo

        Thanks for the feedback Josephine and glad that the article was useful for you.

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